“The intuitive mind is a sacred gift and the rational mind is a faithful servant. We have created a society that honors the servant and has forgotten the gift.” – A. Einstein
Ok, let’s face it, we are often our own worst enemies with our own thoughts that can be critical, judgmental, unkind, or self-sabotaging. I certainly have experienced this many times in my life with critical thoughts toward myself. My thinking, “I am not good enough.” lead to many self-sabotage situations. Undoubtedly, fear and doubt can easily hold me back from taking the bold action that would allow for me to succeed.
What about your thoughts? Are they kind, uplifting, supportive, and in alignment with what you want?
Interestingly, we often don’t know what our thoughts even are, much less how they affect us daily.
Definitely, I was not aware, until I started to listen. When I began to pay attention to my thoughts, emotions, and actions, then I started to learn a lot about myself. Honestly, I had to learn so I could stop the cycle of injuring myself. Hearing my own thoughts has been powerfully eye-opening as I have become aware of my own subconscious programming.
Here is how I did it. First, after feeling overwhelmed by realizing my own stories, I got to work shifting them. I began to understand that my thoughts mattered. Consequently, I was then able to carefully choose new thoughts. Eventually, I began to ask myself, what is the highest thought that I can think right. You know, the thoughts that are most in alignment with what I want to create in my life.
Here is an example: I went to one healer who was a chiropractor and kinesiologist. I said to him, “My knee has no cartilage or ACL and eventually I will need a knee replacement.” He looked me straight in the eye and said, “If that is your story, that is what you will create.”
Man, that hit me like a ton of bricks. I wanted to argue with him and show him the images of my knee, but I paused and just sat with that. I started to wonder if it could be true.
Now I believe in the power of the mind to create. Certainly, it is more powerful for me to think about what I want, not what I don’t want. Undoubtedly, this has served me really well.
Now, limiting beliefs are very common. For me, I believed that if I thought something different than my reality, then I was not being real or honest. Thus, I stayed stuck. Now, what I see works better for me is to ‘Pretend’. Pretend means, ahead of Time (pre-) what I want. However, I don’t go around lying, I simply catch my thoughts and only choose ones that are in the direction I want to go. If there is something I don’t like, I think about what I would like instead. I direct my thoughts to tell my body and soul where we are heading.
So when I say to myself, “My knee is well.”, then I am telling every cell of my body what I want. I guide my body and my mind. This helps me relax, breathe more deeply, and be more open to how to heal. Likewise, instead of releasing adrenaline and cortisol stress hormones that put me in stress response, I can release happy hormones that promote healing.
Check out more on how I healed my back with this method here. (Insert link to how I healed my back story)
Definitely, from my previous perspective, I felt I could only say what seemed like a reality. Like, “my knee hurts, and it doesn’t work well.” Now I say, “My knee is well.” And that has changed everything.
“What you say in your mind, the body will follow.”
Here are the top 5 tips I have to share with you on Controlling Your Mind:
- Butterfly Net: Pretend you have a butterfly net that you use to catch thoughts as they come in. Capture the ones that don’t serve you to the highest. Look at them. Understand the purpose of them. Then consciously choose a better feeling though.
- See the Good: Guide your mind like you might guide a lost child. When it wants to go to old thought patterns, gently turn it around and choose a better feeling. Can you focus on Seeing the Good in yourself and others? See the good and you will get more of it. The sooner you catch it, the better. Otherwise, the mind can spiral in a victim-type way.
- Allow space to breathe, relax, and reset. A little break to get centered and intentional can change your whole day. Plan in time for this daily. Perhaps drive in silence instead of listening to the news. Take a minute before you get out of your car, when you wake up, or when you get home to take 3 deep breaths. Be creative with finding moments. Likewise, think about things you do daily like washing dishes, brushing your teeth, or driving, that you can use to breathe and reset. Most importantly, when you take these deep breaths, set your intention for what you are wanting to feel and create. If we are not intentional we get sucked into old patterns. When we are intentional, we can powerfully create and manifest.
- Meditate: Whether you do a sitting or walking meditation, take time each day to focus on breathing, listening to your mind, clearing your mind, and relaxing. You are way more powerful than you realize. Start small (1 minute or 5 minutes) and get the habit in there, then you can expand it later. Meditating daily can make a big difference in your calm and peace. Here is an article on How to Meditate.
- See New Possibilities: The mind can get stuck in a rut. Like when we only see things in black or white. Pause, breath, and get curious about what else may be possible. Broaden your perspective. Try coming up with 8 different options, like slices of a pie, even if they seem unrealistic. Undoubtedly, it will open your mind. Surely, if you can dream it, you can create it.
I suggest picking one of the above and giving it a go.
Bonus: Habit change tips to help you Succeed
- Make a sticky note and put it in a place that will remind you.
- Set a reminder on your phone to do it throughout the day.
- Tie the practice to something you already do daily like washing dishes, showering, driving, or brushing teeth
- Have an emotional reminder like, when I feel anxious, then I will do _______.
- Visualize it happening. Learn more about the power of visualization here. (Insert link to visualization article)